Valentine’s Day: What does she mean
February 6, 2006 by admin
Filed under Stuff for her, Women & Dating
Well, stuck for ideas on what to suggest for Valentine’s Day, I wanted to generalize and talk about what we think about Valentine’s Day and some tips on how to have fun.
She says…
"Valentine’s Day is stupid, I don’t care" – translation, it’s a stupid holiday, but part of me would appreciate it even if I don’t want to admit it
"Don’t buy me anything" – translation, I don’t want to suggest something, so be creative and try to figure out what is "me". In some cases, it means she wants to go out as the present.
"I don’t want to do anything" – translation, she’s had bad Valentine’s Days in the past. You’ve got to prove something by doing it, and doing it well.
So, yes I know these are generalizations. But I also know we, as women, say a lot of crap we don’t mean. Sometimes it’s just pressure to not be ga-ga over this commercialized day. Sometimes we don’t know the status of the relationship to get excited or not. Sometimes we’re just unsure period. And then there are those that LOVE Valentine’s Day.
I’ll admit it. No matter what kind of relationship you have and how she feels about Valentine’s, there is indeed pressure. Lots of it.
My key advice:
- Be creative. Don’t get hung up on standard gifts like roses – do something different on purpose, and make it clear. If she is a rose fan, you have to have them. Otherwise, get an outrageously beautiful bouquet of other flowers.
- Go out. Unless you’re making dinner, a reservation is a good thing. Dress up and look good, of course. For me, this is all I need. A nice dinner and maybe a flower or two. Not so big on presents.
- Think of "things" outside the box when it comes to gifts. What about the spa? Or a trip away? Or something equally personal – stuff you do together.
- Enjoy it. It’s about you as a couple, not the day. It’s just one extra day to celebrate, but it’s nothing to go crazy for.
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